FWB is a trendy word or acronym of 20th century which exist on everyone tongue but many of us who heard this for the first time got confused by its full form that stands for FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS.
It looks like making use of friends to meet own selfishness but does it actually relates to it??? I would say partially true but not complete. It’s more than that, it’s about fun, romance, meeting needs of each other, intentionally doing acts, feeling of enjoyment with no expectations etc.
FWB another name is Fuck buddies. They do not have title like brother /sister/boyfriend /girlfriend. There is no past, future for these sort of lovers. They just enjoy each other company where and when required.
We conducted a short survey from people around us and youngsters are more interested in such type of relationship whereas on other side people of old age group are hatting it like living relationships. As per them such relationship spoiled the culture of society and can cause damage to humanity.
Some youngsters express it like:-
- “it’s okay to have someone presence without having a ‘label’ on what you two are”.
-“it’s better than relationships full of boredom”.
-“Usually ends up with one side developing feelings.”
-“if two friends want to engage in this type of encounter then they should be able providing they are of consent.”
These opinion clearly highlight how optimistic our youth is and aware of.
Friends with benefits is another way of saying – “Good Enough to hang with, Good Enough to lay with but never Good Enough to be with”.
Let’s discuss about pros and cons relating to this sex and relationship world.
A) Here, friends are not supposed to be jealous if they see you with some one else making out or mingling up.
B) It also saves you from possessiveness arises for each other.
Movie – “No Strings Attached” is perfect example to clarify what /How and Why it is.
In simple words we could say answer to most frequently asked questions (FAQ).
C) No expectation setting It doesn’t bound a person to expect something in return which is different from marriage goals. married couples needs to take care of each other wants, care, respect, fulfiing needs from outside, responsibility, family planning etc. Here friends doesn’t need to think about anything at all. This makes it more relaxed and attractive.
D) Safe to experiment
Within such type of relationships you can experiment as and how and whatever you wish for. Rather than falling into marriage Knot here you get the openness of understanding each other sexual needs and can see if you can make it best or not.
Meet new people and have fun
Here we remained open to meet new people, talk to them, sleep with them. Fun will remain there from all the sides rather than limiting to one person I. E. Either your lover or your boyfriend. You will never left alone as well.
As we know everything comes with a bad side always so how can this topic left out??let’s come to the dark side of such relationships.
A) Society does not accept this relationship easily. Especially in small towns, cities. This will not be considered as normal way out. People of 80s and above have belief that such things can results in more divorces, less marriages and cause imbalance to this human world.
B) attachment deveolp
It has been found in majority of the relationships people ends up developing feelings for each other after sex.Their way of looking at friends get changed to partner which is not necessarily same at both ends.
C) No need to Impress
Here in such sort of relationship people are made for enjoyment only so friends remain free from impressive each other to showcase how beautiful they are. The opposite person is also not looking for something to surprise. All they want is you, bed and precautions.
D) Friendship ruined
Usually it happens that while expressing feelings to each other openly and making out sometimes we lost the respect and dignity. You fall in love and same is not felt by other one.
E) No other benefits we can’t expect him or her to date, support on whose shoulder you can cry, to whom you can make hanging our lot together, you can’t expect your partner to always available whenever you need him due to illness or for home stuff etc.
Sex with a friend might be safer in some ways, but don’t let that fool you into risky unprotected sex. Just because they’re a friend doesn’t make them any less likely to be carrying an STD, says Kerner. Similarly, it doesn’t mean you’re less likely to get pregnant. And if they, and you, are also sleeping with other people at the same time, you’re putting yourselves at increased risk of exposure to STDs too.
In such scenario it’s important to take such decisions wisely individually first so that you won’t regret later for the choices you made. Few tips from our side is there.:-